[00:00:00.000] - Chris Nordyke
Wow. How many of you have listened to the Head, Heart, and Boots podcast? I can't tell you that react, how much that means to us.
[00:00:07.700] - Floodlight
Welcome back to the Head, Heart, and Boots podcast.
[00:00:10.660] - Chris Nordyke
I'm Chris.
[00:00:11.380] - Brandon Reece
And I'm Brandon. Join us as we wrestle with what it takes to transform ourselves and the businesses we lead. This new camera angle makes my arms look smaller than yours.
[00:00:21.110] - Chris Nordyke
I'm noticing that and I really appreciate it. I thought you did that on purpose.
[00:00:24.180] - Brandon Reece
No, I don't. I didn't, and I am not happy with it. Bro, I want to do this without glasses this morning. Yeah. Getting crazy.
[00:00:32.840] - Chris Nordyke
Right. I'll join you.
[00:00:33.760] - Brandon Reece
Yeah, we're getting crazy. We might not be able to see anything, but damn it, we'll record something.
[00:00:38.280] - Chris Nordyke
Everything's a little fuzzier, but that isn't necessarily bad.
[00:00:41.220] - Brandon Reece
Distance-wise, I'm gold. Mine's old man time catching up to the old reading. Reading shit here. Yeah. I got to put an extended arm. Are we live? Are we live? Yeah. This is real.
[00:00:52.840] - Chris Nordyke
Welcome back, everybody. Welcome back to the Head, Heart, Boots podcast.
[00:00:56.080] - Brandon Reece
That's right.
[00:00:56.880] - Chris Nordyke
Brandon and I are shifting mental gears here, but I think we've got a really good topic that Brandon has brought to the table today.
[00:01:03.680] - Brandon Reece
You want to open it up? Just launch? Yeah. I think that for a while now, social media, I think, news, all the things, they've started to point towards this idea that as our worlds get more and more remote, we've got way more remote workforces now. A lot of this was sped up during the COVID piece, and it just hasn't returned, where we just have all these things that we're doing inside our lives, inside our businesses, social media platforms becoming a primary mode of conversation and relationship. There's something that's beginning to get spoken about more and more often, and it's more and more scientifically supported. It's just this idea of a real loneliness epidemic. I thought about this as I was listening to this. I was listening to a sermon. That's part of where this came up. But real quickly, they basically said, and I haven't validated this yet, I just haven't had time, is apparently the surgeon general, is that the right term? Mm-hmm. Put out an extensive warning and white paper on this idea of loneliness epidemic that we are currently facing. They were just talking about the effects, if you will, on the general population.
[00:02:20.420] - Brandon Reece
Ultimately, what it leads to is this, it's creating a ton of mental wellness issues and physical issues because of this living in an extended state of loneliness, how there's real chemical and physical ramifications of it. As I was listening to this sermon, I was just thinking to myself as a business owner, the relationships that I have with business partners, with leadership teams, with our employees. I was like, Man, this is interesting because I can... Not only am I experiencing some form of this on my own, personally, It's making me ask myself some questions regarding how I lead people and where maybe in the past, I hadn't maybe given something the same amount of weight. It's making me question that a little bit as a leader and just asking myself some more questions of, wow, is this something that we are seeing and witnessing in the business? If so, does it require us to iterate a little bit in terms of behavior? Here's the primary elements of this. One is that people are losing their own self-worth and value. They're having a tough time identifying their own personal value. Apparently, that's a byproduct, just not being in this into human relationship, because there's a lot of things that happen in physical relationship, being present in the same room, sitting across the table from somebody, versus what can happen in a virtual environment via a screen.
[00:04:00.000] - Brandon Reece
An example was, is that, for instance, when somebody experiences direct eye contact, there's an immediate dropping of cortisol in the system, and Then there's an immediate application of these healthier chemical responses that make you feel seen, heard, valued. There's this scientific reaction that's happening that reduces stress and increases the healthy mood mental state chemicals, purely from eye contact. What they're saying is that physically, you can't recreate that via a screen. Even if you and I lock eyeballs in a virtual fathom meeting or whatever the case may be, that same reaction doesn't happen. It's not the same. It requires this physical proximity. They're just cite all these things relationally that are super healthy for us, that build community, that build value, that build that build seen and herd and valuedness that only happen in this physical relationship. Man, dude, even in my partnership with FP, I travel a lot, and so I'm getting on the ground with our team, but I go weeks at a time where all my interaction with anybody and everybody is predominantly virtual. Bro, if I'm honest about it, it's been a growing problem. It's part of the uneasiness that I haven't been able to label super well.
[00:05:34.480] - Brandon Reece
You know what I mean?
[00:05:35.140] - Chris Nordyke
It's weird.
[00:05:36.260] - Brandon Reece
Anyways, that's where I wanted to go. So there's the-I love that.
[00:05:39.580] - Chris Nordyke
There is so much in that because I feel what you're saying. Well, I think about You and I getting together this last weekend, Saturday, we got together. It's just profoundly different as well when you're really able to be in the moment with somebody. I think that's so rare now. Where neither one of us were We weren't looking at our phones for the most part. We had a section of time where we weren't looking at our phones, we were hiking, and we were breathing heavy, going up this hill. There is something important about that that I think we have in mass, at scale, we've fallen away from most people to where they don't have friends outside of work. We've talked about this before. This is really, really common amongst entrepreneurs and owners is we get enmeshed in our business and what's happening in our business that we no longer are taking routine time and not to drink and party. No. It's very different. Hanging out with the boys or with the girls and going out and partying is not what we're talking about. It's not getting wasted at the hotel bar. No. It's like you and I were looking each other in the eye.
[00:06:53.160] - Chris Nordyke
We were talking about things that mattered to each of us. There was a level of vulnerability talking openly about what's happening in our lives right now beyond just work, but including work. I don't know how the research flushes that out, but I think that's something that's missing, too, is that all of us are so consumed with work, and work is so accessible at all times.
[00:07:15.190] - Brandon Reece
All times.
[00:07:16.240] - Chris Nordyke
It's really been that way for the last 10 or 20 years, but I think since everybody's gone remote, part of what's come with remote, too, is there's a sense that there is really no defined start and stop to work. It used to be to some degree When we were working in sublimity Oregon, Silverton, Oregon, State in Oregon, and when we were operating, you'd go to the shop in the morning, and there was some process of you driving home to your house at night. And does that mean we all didn't have work that came up at night? Well, of course we did because it's restoration.
[00:07:50.320] - Brandon Reece
Yeah, it's the game.
[00:07:51.140] - Chris Nordyke
But it is. It's different. It is. It's different where it's so easy to grab the iPad and review that spreadsheet one more time or make some tweaks to it or reply to six or eight more emails after dinner. I think all of this is coalescing. And the other thing that came on my mind, too, as you talk about working with FP and us in our consulting work with all our clients is, that's with you having the best possible setup. You have professional lighting in your room. You have really nice equipment. You have a microphone that makes it feel much more like you're right there, and they can see all the features in your face. Whereas And so I would just offer this little side note is if you work remote, spend the 2, 3, 400 bucks to have a really good microphone and very good lighting so people can at least see you really well. It's one of the big problems and why it feels so lonely and why people hate sitting on webinars and everything else is so different when you're looking at somebody with a dark camera view and everything else. So that's something for all of us to consider if you do remote work.
[00:08:57.520] - Brandon Reece
Yeah, I think one of the things that was just having an impact on me as I was considering this. I mean, one is like, I just... Our world that we live in now, we are in a remote relationship with most of our interactions the majority of the time. Just there's a real impact on me personally and for a lot of us personally. A lot of the people listening to our show, though, are operators that are running their shops, and so they're physically in proximity with their people. But I think it's this element of understanding the deficit that our people are starting from, and then understanding that it means we may have to do more than we did in the past because it's harder to fill that gap or the need is so much greater than potentially it was even seven or eight years ago. Six, seven, eight years ago. I was just really considering that. In full transparency, when you start working with any organization, and in consultation or consulting, and even as an operator, there's these elements of auditing and investigating the business and really trying to understand the truth of the current situation and understanding what literally has to be done and prioritized to move the business.
[00:10:11.120] - Brandon Reece
I think recognizing a reality versus only trying to recognize what you want to hear or see your experience. That's a thing, but that's a different show. When you identify that there's needs in the business, reasonable, appropriate needs that require attention and change and change management, I think we can underestimate this need that exists before we even start working with our team to move through infrastructure or system or process changes in the company. Does that make sense?
[00:10:41.300] - Chris Nordyke
Yeah.
[00:10:41.820] - Brandon Reece
I think in many ways, if I'm really honest, I don't think I did a good job of that. When I first came into the FP ecosystem as an operator, I'm not sure that I totally took stock of the state of our people outside of just normal business stuff. If I'm honest, I'm assessing some of my leadership that I've attempted to live out so far, and I'm finding myself wanting a little bit. I'm listening to myself. I'm looking back at some of the situations, some of the communication We've sent out some of the decisions that I've made or led. I can tell that it wasn't the spirit of... It may not have even really been the methodology that was a failure. I think I underestimated the level of need that we were starting from in terms of my individual team members and the fragility, not because of the state of the business, but because of the state of people. I'm not sure that I took stock of that really well. I believe that we are certainly experiencing some byproduct of people just being a little distrusting and extra cautious and the gap in the sense of, I think it's very easy for our people to feel completely undervalued.
[00:12:00.000] - Brandon Reece
It's not because of a lack of effort, per se. It's a lack of effort to meet the current demand. I hope that makes sense.
[00:12:07.020] - Chris Nordyke
Well, here's... Okay, this is what's coming up for me, man, is, and I don't know if this is something that's on the cusp of change in our culture, but I catch myself bristling a little bit sometimes, especially on this topic, just how much we as business owners and leaders, we're stuck in this paradigm of employees, team members. I think we create some separation in minds between real relationships, like we engage husband, wife, girlfriend, kid, friend, buddy, pal. We sort and separate between our professional and personal lives. For whatever reason, there's a difference that we assign to the people we work with. In particular, if we're leaders, we think of our downline employees. I think this is largely subconscious. But just as I'm listening to you, and I'm not accusing you, I talk the same way, but I'm starting to notice There's almost a designation for how I talk to, think about, and connect with employees versus the kinds of relationships that I'm trying to cultivate with buddies, friends, neighbors, church, cousins, family. I realized, look, there's obviously practical differences that are real. I think we probably, in the midst of that, we don't tend to really engage with people at a super authentic, interested level.
[00:13:32.320] - Brandon Reece
This is interesting, and I think we should hang in this. We may open a can of worms here.
[00:13:37.220] - Chris Nordyke
I think a lot of employees, dude, this is like, remember the whole quiet quitting thing we went through? It's, of course, still going. But that whole quiet quitting thing in COVID, I think a big part of it is, and part of my language, but I think it requires strong language. I think many, many, many employees walk around, regardless of how awesome you think your culture is, feeling like at the end of the day, nobody gives a fuck about them. If push came to shove, if they had a rough couple months, their behavior was poor because they're struggling in their marriage or they have financial struggles at home or they have a sick kid or they have some other frustrating, disappointing, distracting, distracting thing going on at home, there's just a knowledge that if they weren't 100% for long enough, they're shit on down the road. They're going to get replaced. Now, the reality is, this is what's hard, right? Is the reality is it's almost certainly true. If any of us just bag out on our responsibilities at work, at some point somebody will be like, Why are we paying you? I get that. I think that's the tension is how do we turn this corner to affect this loneliness thing?
[00:14:50.320] - Chris Nordyke
I think some of it has to be rethinking how we even... Like our mindset, the way we talk about employees, and I don't think it's necessarily us putting a friendlier on it, like calling everybody family. That's not what I'm talking about.
[00:15:03.020] - Brandon Reece
No. Yeah, I don't think it's nomenclature and things like that. It's challenging, too, because the easiest way I can relate to this, personally, again, this is not advice giving. This is me just processing raw with you is I look at it almost closer to a parent-child relationship, and that has nothing to do with me trying to place a statement about competency or value or anything. It's just that of relationship where boundaries and relationship go hand in hand. Meaning that part of the way that you create trust and confidence in the relationship is by being clear on the boundaries that you create. I think that what What we're talking about is challenging because it's not the ownership doesn't rely only on us. Here's what I mean by that. Man, this is the wrestling match, I think, between individual and entity who's responsible for what. Here's what I mean. In my mind, there's a level of responsibility that I have as a steward to an entire organization, meaning we have lots of families inside the company that we're responsible for. When we get in these situations where we're trying to isolate or work through the specific relationship with an individual, as much as we want to do to affect positive change in that one-on-one relationship, it's always going to secondary to the broader responsibility that we have to steward the whole and really understanding how much can you give on an individual basis, understanding that it begins to take away from the broader body that you're also a steward of.
[00:16:48.440] - Brandon Reece
So there's that. So that stays in the back of my mind as I try to think through this a little bit and think about, okay, what part do I need to flex more or do a better job of iterating around or modifying my approach? But then there's also this thing where when you start to blur the line, I don't know if blurs the line is the correct word, but when you really want to engage people at a personal level, you also run this risk of I don't know if I believe this. I'm just saying I think mental gymnastics that I do, maybe. You run this risk of the employee, the team member, not being able to handle that level of relationship well. Example, you and I have always had a different working relationship than most of my team because you've been able to handle or separate the difference of when you and I meet on a Saturday to be in relationship on a Saturday, versus when we go to show up at the job and we have these roles that have titles and responsibilities and relationship to other team members. Like your ability to be responsible with that makes a difference in terms of what I can give.
[00:18:02.360] - Chris Nordyke
Sure.
[00:18:03.340] - Brandon Reece
I think the challenge is that people often want a richer relationship with the employer, the supervisor, the boss. But then many of us really struggle to be a good steward to that relationship. We can take it for granted. We can take it for granted. Or it's not even take it for granted. It's almost like a subconscious lowering of the standard because, oh, we're tight. We have a good relationship. Sure. I know what you mean. I'm putting that individual ultimately in a compromised state as a leader. You would think, well, if we have a tight relationship that's mutually respectful, you would guard your performance to not put me as a leader in a compromised state based on how you're performing. I think, unfortunately, humans, we really struggle to give and take responsibly when we want a certain working environment. We're good at saying we need more of and want more of, but I think we can fail then to be a good steward of what receiving. Does that make sense? It does.
[00:19:01.740] - Chris Nordyke
It takes me to this principle of yin and yang.
[00:19:05.820] - Floodlight
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[00:19:59.590] - Floodlight
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[00:20:11.740] - Chris Nordyke
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[00:21:35.500] - Chris Nordyke
Because if you have honesty and real-time feedback paired with this personal, interested, curious, genuine relationship of, Hey, you're not just an employee. I really care about what your life is like and how your work fits in with the rest of your life. That's important to me. I think we can communicate and live that out. But We also have to be equally committed to when there's a condition that's not being met, that we're open about it, and we're not allowing the relationship to cause us to shy away from addressing that condition. It's the same thing I've experienced in my marriage with my wife. When we let things go unaddressed that are offensive to us, it totally chips away at the relationship. There is no avoiding that. I think a lot of, well, men and women, both, but I think just for men listening, I think our tendency often is to suppress our feelings of disappointment, frustration, irritation. I think some of us also bring that into our work relationships where when we develop a friendship or a close relationship with employees, and then we start to get frustrated, irritated, disappointed in their behavior, angry with their performance or behavior, our tendency might be to give them a free pass, give some extra rope to hang themselves with rather than getting in and addressing that in real-time.
[00:23:06.470] - Chris Nordyke
Again, it's no different than marriage. The most healthy marriage is people I know that are genuinely affectionate and seem to be happy with one another more than not, is they deal with things as they come up and they're very honest with each other. I just wonder how I think a lot of us struggle in getting that combination right. I think a lot of us avoid getting into personal relationship with employees because we've been burned in the past where they've taken advantage of that relationship. But I think a lot of that can get solved by us adopting a really disciplined approach to the relationship. It's like, hey, I think maybe even when we onboard people, we need to be more deliberate about, look, we don't just say we're like family, we're just we're relationships here. We're going to get to know you. My hope is that you're going to get to know us and you're going to get to know your fellow employees and you're going to care about each other. We're going to care about with each other here. This is a conditional relationship. Because if you don't do what we brought you onto the team to do, you are hurting other people on the team.
[00:24:11.720] - Chris Nordyke
Therefore, out of my care for you, and the rest of the team. And the whole rest of the team and this whole thing we're doing together, my promise to you is I'm going to be honest when you're not meeting the conditions, whether that be how you're spending company money, the sales activities that you're committed to in the field, the way that you present yourself professionally, your appearance, the way you talk to others, the way you follow our processes, all that stuff. My promise to you is if any of that gets out of whack, I'm going to tell you because I want you on the team. If you stop doing those things or you do those things out of alignment, inevitably-It's where the conditions kick in.
[00:24:51.160] - Brandon Reece
It's where the conditions kick in. They have to be there.
[00:24:53.900] - Chris Nordyke
What do you think of that, dude?
[00:24:55.620] - Brandon Reece
No, I think that's got legs. I think when I hear myself talking about this, principally, I go back to situations, let's say, that I've been through even in the last couple of weeks. I think anybody listening has experienced this, too. It's just so much more complicated than it sounds like when you're talking about it.
[00:25:15.800] - Chris Nordyke
It's emotional as well.
[00:25:17.440] - Brandon Reece
It's very emotional. It really is. I think, too, from a leadership perspective, is that you also run the risk of just not having enough emotional tank gas in the tank to be everything that everybody wants you to be. I think that that's where I'm starting with, with this, the need is so much higher than it probably should be right now because of the environmental conditions that have been created over the last, maybe maybe 10, maybe even 20 years. It's pushing a level of onus on us as leaders and as employers that it just requires us to slow down and ask some questions. Because I think if you try to continue to approach it from looking at it and saying, well, that's unrealistic demand on me because you're looking at prior experiences and workforce exposure, I think that's wrong because I think you're running the risk of ignoring a reality. And reality just is. You've got to do something about it. And or you run the risk of, what's the term? You just run the risk of not running the right play when you could be winning because you're ignoring something. But the gap is big, dude.
[00:26:26.800] - Brandon Reece
It's one of the things I've been talking to my kids quite a bit about They're that tween generation. We've talked about this where they didn't grow up on devices, but certainly once they hit high school and junior high, they were being exposed full-time to those devices. It influences them, especially as their adulthood they went into that was full-blown. But it's different. It's slightly different for them than, let's say, somebody that's under 20 years old right now as an example. They can speak to it and they understand it. They've been able to also help me identify Their generation versus the current generation, they feel the difference socially in the neediness, the... I don't know. There's a lack of skill set that you would normally develop when you're in the schoolyard, when you're in conflict with schoolmates and peers, and when there's healthy lines because you might get punched in your face if you open your mouth, versus the lack of lines and boundaries that our young generation is exposed to on a day-to-day basis. Hell, young I am, like all of us. There's just like, people talk big talk because they understand there's really very little physical circumstances or consequence for it, which back in the day, dude, you opened your pie hole, somebody was going to maybe put their fist through it if you didn't have some game to back up what you were yaking about.
[00:27:49.580] - Brandon Reece
Man, there's just no such thing. There's no social responsibility, it seems like. Anyway, okay, now I'm spinning. But I think that's just, I don't have the answer. I've just found myself going, wow, in the past, when I've communicated the spirit of or the theory behind or why we're going to do something, the level of support and commitment and unification I could get versus what I'm capable of getting now with the same actions, it's different, dude. It's measurably different, and it put me on my heels a little bit. I'm experiencing it as a leader, as an entrepreneur, I'm going, this is something that we have to If you take in account. Here's another area that I think maybe, we're going all over the place, but you mentioned this idea of during the onboarding, being more intentional about setting those boundaries. Here's what you're going to experience here. You have a couple of different ways that you can respond to that. One, you could identify this is not going to be a good fit because honesty is going to happen here. You could identify that could be hard at times, but it's going to be honest and fulfilling, and I'm going to know where I stand.
[00:28:58.600] - Brandon Reece
I think Another thing that this requires, though, is I think we really have to take stock of who we can put on our roster. Understanding that this need exists for most of the people that we're going to have an opportunity to hire, understanding the need and the level of demand is higher potentially than it has been, asking ourselves the question as leaders and as a company, do we have the resources, the time, the energy to give to this, and to what extent? Because then that should help guide you on who you can hire because you can't be everything to everyone no matter how hard you try. If you intentionally put somebody on, maybe that is going to be void of enough life experience. I don't want to say age because we can't discriminate on age. But from a reality perspective, it could be that your organization doesn't have what it needs to support real young hires. If that gap, that life experience gap, that social gap is too big, you may just not be able to give them what they need to succeed in your particular business. That would be a real smart thing to identify before you say yes.
[00:30:08.040] - Chris Nordyke
Give me an example of where there might be a mismatch like that. Well, I think- Or we'd have an inability to give these youngsters what they need.
[00:30:15.360] - Brandon Reece
Well, I think part of the way that we look at experience or lack of experience is if we just remove the age and you just said you looked at somebody's career history and you see what they've been exposed to. That could It could be start all the way from team sports. It could be where they got their education in terms of the rigorousness of the studies, of the project work, the expectation. It could be any employment history. I think there's a reality that if We know that there's a social gap that exists that may have been larger than it has been in the past, and that's going to exist no matter what. Then you add on top of that an employee prospect that literally has zero life experience outside of being born. They weren't part of a team at all. They were isolated or siloed in high school. You can't point towards anything where they achieved, got recognition, honors, awards. They don't have a college education, which you know how I feel about college education. I think it is sometimes worthless completely. But there is something that happens when somebody goes to school often where they're at least put in an environment where they have due dates and expectations placed on them.
[00:31:27.620] - Brandon Reece
Anyways, if you look at that and there's really not much history there to point to, I think that would be an example of you really have to ask yourself, does your organization have the time and assets to pour that much into that individual, to elevate their basic understanding of what it's like to operate within a team and be responsible for due date? It's like how to be a good employee just to start with. You're running a big risk, man. A big risk.
[00:31:58.000] - Chris Nordyke
Another thing is coming up for me as you talk about this is anxiety. What do you mean? How does that connect? This younger generation, in my experience-Shit, dude, I've run high on. Is... Well, listen, I think we're all affected by this, and I think a lot of it traces back to our devices and social media culture, all the things. But I think that's a universal marker on, let's just call them the 15 to 25 crowd right now, maybe a little bit even older than that, where I think COVID was a big culprit. A lot of people going through school in COVID. I think the predominant message that these students got as they were going through the whole COVID experience from public school in particular, is this is so scary and hard. You can't handle this. No, sure. It's a heavy message. How did that message come? Well, and did all the kids absorb that? Of course not. But a majority did, I believe, to where they were being given a constant drum beat message of, well, this is scary, this is hard, this is risky, this is dangerous. It came in all variety of forms.
[00:33:06.540] - Chris Nordyke
Obviously, I'm like, how much do I want to get into this subject matter? But the point being is relaxing the standards. Classes changing from graded classes to pass/fail. These are all things we experience in our local school district. I saw the impact of that on my children. In a couple of cases, we just decided to move them out of the public school system. I'm so grateful that we were able to I'll do that. But my point is that there are a lot of kids with fractured self-esteem, self-confidence, and really high levels of baseline anxiety. As I talk with other friends, the kids that are in that 15 to 25 age range where they were all impacted by COVID a little bit differently, but it's part of that whole experience. My question is, is that something that we should be interviewing for? Now, obviously, I'm not talking about the medical condition of anxiety. We obviously can't ask about people's medical health history and all that stuff or make judgments based on that. But what I mean is, do we need to become better at our interview process to understand where people are mentally coming in the role?
[00:34:15.220] - Chris Nordyke
Because let's face it, in restoration, there's a level of baseline pressure in our industry that's not good for everyone. I think we see this on teams where we see people of the age I'm talking about coming in, and some really struggle in this environment. It's like, is there a way for us to be a little bit more conscious of how we're interviewing to stress test that piece a little bit, to understand how they deal with adversity. Really being intentional about incorporating to understand who we're bringing on, because I agree with you. I think we do have to be more careful about the avatar of the person we're hiring Otherwise, they're likely to struggle. They're likely to struggle to meet the conditions.
[00:35:07.100] - Brandon Reece
I think that's huge. Here's a reality check that I feel like I've gone through. I think it relates to what you're saying directly is, This whole idea of how much do you have to give in the current state of the business? One of the things that happened when we partnered with FP is there was a state of the union that was given that I gave. It It was a recasting of where we're going with the company. Man, it's like I look back on that now.
[00:35:37.680] - Chris Nordyke
I mean, seriously, though, let's call it what it was. It was one of the most inspiring speeches I've heard you give. It stands on its own as I felt like a beacon. It was a great opening speech, but anyway, keep going.
[00:35:52.740] - Brandon Reece
What's your reflection? I'm assessing it now, and I'm assessing how would my team... How are they probably feeling versus versus what we've accomplished and where we're at versus what I was casting at that session? I know that even though I tried to do a good job of telling the team, this is going to come with pain first, we forget how easy it is for people to ignore pain because we don't want to... It's like you tell your kid, don't do this, you're going to get grounded, and they get hyper-focused on doing the thing and not the consequence. Because we all just... It's uncomfortable and we want to ignore it. I think that no matter how well I could articulated at the time that there's going to be pain before their success, I think the team is straining under the pain portion because we've had a lot. We've had to assess everything, and I'm not taking anything from the state of the company or its history, But dude, when the world changes as fast as it's currently changing, no matter how well you've done, yesterday was yesterday and tomorrow is a whole different ball game. We've just been having to assess every element of the business and there has been change.
[00:36:57.090] - Brandon Reece
But it's funny because we've been throwing around this term change fatigue. I think, yes, I think that's a good way to label it. But you know what I think I'm realizing is that more of the change fatigue has nothing to do with the procedural shift. It actually has way more to do with the instability emotionally of the team to begin with. Change is just another chink in the armor that strips confidence. I feel like the confidence level of the company as a whole already is fragile. It's like, I want to point towards this because of this, a lack of leadership here. I think we always need to be accountable and we always need to be gaining skill set.
[00:37:38.950] - Chris Nordyke
That's always part of it.
[00:37:40.620] - Brandon Reece
But man, I think part of me is going, too. It's like people are in a fragile state. They're depleted. They're depleted. There is, and again, I want to be clear, we have responsibility as leaders in our company. I am not blame shifting at all. At the end of the day, it's still our problem to solve. But I just want to recognize, and I think maybe This is just for other leaders and owners listening to the show today, you're not alone. There is something happening in the workforce that is making some of these goals harder to achieve. Not impossible, not diverting responsibility. It's harder. We're probably wondering why it feels so much harder. Why do we experience maybe more friction? And think about this. This would carry over to all your partners, other companies, peer businesses that you do business with, all their staffing. What about TPA that you're in relationship with, carriers that you do business with? These things are true in all of their organizations as well. If we just can collectively breathe in and say, Okay, I can do better. And there's some real life things that you're experiencing that are affecting your effectiveness, and that's okay, too.
[00:38:50.140] - Brandon Reece
I think one of those things is that each one of our team members coming into the business, to include ourselves right now, have a much bigger gap than I think we've recognized in the past. It's not their fault either. It's this weird dance that we have to do as leaders where we continue to iterate, conduct some after-action review on how we're behaving, what we're communicating, what change we're instituting, and then also give yourself some grace because people are in a rough way. They were in a rough way before you showed up, and they're in a rough way outside of work all the time, and life is doing its thing. You can't, I don't know, you can't own all of it. You know what I mean? I don't I don't know if we've done anything to help anybody in this conversation right now.
[00:39:33.000] - Chris Nordyke
It's helping me. I'm having thoughts about this. I was hanging out with the boys last night. We had a custom discuss. Oh, yeah. It was in my friend Jared's house. He's a builder. He's got a hot tub. We all hot tubbed for a few hours last night. In this hot tub, I've got a long-time real estate guy. He's a broker and property manager guy, has his own little portfolio. Then I got my friend Tim, who I've got a neighbor in our offices, and Tim's an absolute real estate tycoon. Then I've got Jared, who's a high-end home remodeler in our market. All of us are high achievers in our own way, in our own space. When we get together for these hangouts, dude, the blessing of it for me is that I realize that we're all the same. I can catch myself comparing myself to even my buddies, just in their different levels of success and where they're winning and so forth. But then when we all start talking about the other pressures of life, and marriage, and parenting, and physical health, and anxiety, and stress, and all the things, it becomes very clear, very fast, that we're all in the same shed.
[00:40:49.920] - Chris Nordyke
We're all in the same, wading through the same water. And of course, that's true with every single one of our employees. The magnitude of the challenges and problems might be different. But yeah, I just have to think that most of us are walking around very lonely in our work. I think that even becomes more severe for some of our frontline people that the weight of the world is on their shoulders to provide Especially in our industry, it's a taxing. It's a taxing industry.
[00:41:22.660] - Brandon Reece
Yeah, and just life in general. I think we can wrap this one up, but I was just thinking about my son. He's got a family forming that he's becoming more and more responsible to and orienting more and more around. I just think about how challenging that is for him right now.
[00:41:43.750] - Chris Nordyke
Dude, like hockey stick, like the responsibility growth is just- It went up through the ceiling.
[00:41:49.540] - Brandon Reece
The challenges that he's going through are he's doing great. He and his fiancé are doing fantastic. I think that they're trying to think through things very well. They're very mature. I think they're asking themselves hard questions. They're leveraging levels of discipline. So this isn't... He's not suffering consequences per se, but there's just a reality when you're building a family, the demand on you mentally and emotionally. And yet he's trying to do a great job at work, too. And he's got professional challenges for himself. He's got certain levels of achievement that he wants to earn. And man, it's like, because I'm just his dad and I'm not his boss, I just look at the whole thing so much more sensitive, sensitively. It's like, I just recognize how hard it is to give that much to both spectrums, your professional career and your at-home career. I just go, Man, all of our people are in the midst of the same thing.
[00:42:45.290] - Chris Nordyke
Yeah, dude. I think we need to develop eyes for that as owners and leaders to be able to see that more clearly with our own people.
[00:42:52.260] - Brandon Reece
It's challenging to know how to coach that. Here's my commitment to myself, and if anybody else can relate to this, great. If not, You're going to have some other way that you solve this problem. But I think my commitment right now is I'm going to continue to be as transparent as I possibly can in all the areas of my interaction with my people that I can responsibly. Here's what I mean by that. I have to do a better job of filtering the angst or emotions that I have related to the current state of the company, current state of the industry, current state of my own personal life, because that's not fair for me to load that on my people. They They already have their own shit. They do not need to carry the load that I'm responsible to steward. I can't be transparent about everything at all times because it's not fair to my people. But I can do a better job of just speaking the reality of why I'm asking them to iterate, why I'm asking for change. Then one of the things that I'm doing right now is we are trying to get better at messaging, Hey, massive levels of change is not what you need to get ready to all the time.
[00:44:01.280] - Brandon Reece
Like, breathe. Because if our company is high angst, high anxiety, high distrust, high all these things, and you give the impression to them that we're going to be in a constant state of change forever, oh my gosh, I just don't think they have the wherewithal emotionally to even understand how to mentally prepare for that. It's not true. Like tweaking and iterating, modifications, refining, that's forever. That's not the same as massive institutional change, though. I think for me personally, in our state of the business, I'm just going to get really good at or I'm trying to remain committed to. I'm going to do a better job of being transparent where I can, being honest. Like, hey, We have to do this. Here's the implications on you personally, on us as a business. Then there is a level of, I'm going to try to do a better job of monitoring my own emotional response to what's happening in my life, understanding that I'm ultimately asking my people to do the same thing. That's where this comes together for me is, even though they have challenges in their life, I am asking them to show up and be responsible for how they're processing that and how they allow it to affect their role in the company.
[00:45:16.800] - Chris Nordyke
Part of something smart, though, that you've done at FP, that you and Wayne and Steve have really been prioritizing, though, is not firing on too many targets. I know you guys wrestle with it. I've heard you wrestle about it, and I know it's a focus The point you guys have tried to keep in mind is, okay, for example, I know when we first got in there and we're looking at it, we were seriously looking at a job management software change, and you guys ended up deciding to punt that. I thought, because the load, it would have created on the overall team would have been extreme in conjunction with some of the other targets that you guys have been firing on for meaningful change. I think there's something to that. I think there's something to that where, and you guys were conscious of this, being conscious of people's capacity to handle this stuff. I think probably people's capacity has gone down because of all of the distraction- That's it. And anxiety. We are not the same. Thank God, in some way, you could say for AI and automation that's coming up because I think it's going to be able to close some of that gap.
[00:46:19.680] - Chris Nordyke
Like our capacity to move and create change, fortunately, the robots are going to take on some of that in the future because we don't have the same capacity as Yeah, it feels like there's...
[00:46:32.800] - Brandon Reece
I think science is beginning to substantiate some of this. I agree. I think ultimately, we just don't have the same level of fuel in the tank, and we need to understand that and iterate some expectations and my hands accordingly. I think, yeah.
[00:46:47.810] - Chris Nordyke
My freaking Regban glasses. I love these, and I had to pause my notifications during this podcast. I really am probably going to turn them off because I love getting my notifications in my ear. I love getting my calls announced, and I hate them, and I hate it. This whole distraction culture.
[00:47:07.200] - Brandon Reece
Oh, it's insane right now.
[00:47:08.640] - Chris Nordyke
It's insane. Yet there's this ego pole within us to be connected and to know and to have answers and to move fast.
[00:47:19.040] - Brandon Reece
It's challenging.
[00:47:20.140] - Chris Nordyke
It's exhausting, right? It's challenging. We got to protect our people from that somehow.
[00:47:24.040] - Brandon Reece
People and ourselves. People and ourselves. All right, just some stuff to consider, guys. This is just real-life crap I think that we we're all, to a certain extent, wrestling with. I think sometimes for me, just getting it out in the air and recognizing it and pulling the dead body, if you will, out of the back, the backyard is important because it definitely diffuses. Some of it a little bit. It's like just getting it out.
[00:47:46.780] - Chris Nordyke
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[00:48:44.680] - Brandon Reece
I like that message. It's crazy expensive. All right, gang. Thanks for hanging out with us. We'll see you. All right, everybody. Hey, thanks for joining us for another episode of Head, Heart, and Boots.
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