[00:00:00.260] - Brandon Reece
How you doing?
[00:00:03.410] - Chris Nordyke
So for those of you that— I mean, this sounds— this is so cheesy. This is like dumb studio humor, is see who will be the first to hit the mic. Yeah, to open it up to, you know, for a long time, I think for like almost 2 years straight, it was me.
[00:00:17.320] - Brandon Reece
I don't know.
[00:00:17.740] - Chris Nordyke
And then you started playing games, my friend. Games, I tell you.
[00:00:21.100] - Brandon Reece
I know. I really hope at some point we can get a sponsorship from Ketone IQ. Yeah, that's— I keep bringing these things on the on the show. It's like powered by Ketone IQ. We're getting nothing for it. Great for you to send us a case of them, and then we'll talk about them on the podcast.
[00:00:35.120] - Chris Nordyke
I think they work, actually.
[00:00:36.300] - Brandon Reece
They do work. Yeah, 100 milligrams of green tea extract, caffeine in it. That's the bomb diggity. All right, haven't said that word in probably 10 years. Bomb diggity. Well, hey, welcome back to the Head, Heart, and Boots podcast. Today we've got a really interesting guest, a little bit outside of the norm for us.
[00:00:53.620] - Chris Nordyke
You guys have some history too.
[00:00:55.070] - Brandon Reece
Yeah, yeah, it's really cool. So early in my career, some of you've heard me talk about Cutco selling knives at the beginning of my career. So J. Brad Britton was the West Region President for Cutco, spent 36 years.
[00:01:09.590] - Chris Nordyke
Unbelievable.
[00:01:10.230] - Brandon Reece
In that organization. And I'm just— some of you've heard me talk about Cutco before. I'm just a huge fan. I mean, it was a really important part of my life. A lot of my foundational sales training experience came from that as a, you know, 19 to 22 year old, also learning how to manage people and all that kind of stuff, interview, run a business, like all that stuff is incredible. And J. Brad was in that same system and kind of my boss, my boss boss. I was coming up. But he also was a father to a son with apraxia, which is kind of generally considered on the spectrum of autism. And it's this condition where they think very normally, like inside their brain they have lots of intelligence and are normal in many ways like any other child or person, but they have difficulty expressing physically. They have difficulty speaking, in a lot of cases using appropriate body language and facial expressions and all that kind of stuff. And so, just a really interesting condition, and obviously difficult and perplexing for parents and the person themselves, I'm sure. But J. Brad wrote a book called Real Words with Sam about his kind of journey with his son, and a lot of leadership parallels in it.
[00:02:19.540] - Chris Nordyke
Unbelievable.
[00:02:20.500] - Brandon Reece
You know?
[00:02:21.150] - Brandon Reece
And, uh—
[00:02:21.320] - Brandon Reece
That is—
[00:02:21.890] - Chris Nordyke
that's kind of what the— I mean, it was one of the reasons that we wanted to have him.
[00:02:25.570] - Brandon Reece
Totally. So, in the— anyway, in the show, we get into some of his Cutco background, and I bring that up, and it's a little nostalgic for me. And we talk about this experience with his son, and it's— it's— it's good. It's good. Hang in there. It's one of our longer shows here recently, but we cover some good ground.
[00:02:41.670] - Chris Nordyke
Yeah, a little bit slower burn. And then once we get into the kind of the nuts and bolts of the conversation, I think it's real easy to see these layers of opportunity to learn and how we can apply that to our own teams, our own families, just relationships in general. It's actually— it's powerful.
[00:02:59.240] - Brandon Reece
Yeah, I think a lot of it centers on how we tend to judge. We tend to judge people on sort of their surface behavior, not considering what's going on behind the scenes. And, uh, so anyway, there's a lot here. Thank you for listening. Wow, how many of you have listened to the Head, Heart, and Boots podcast? I can't tell you that reaction, how much that means to us. Welcome back to the Head, Heart, and Boots podcast. I'm Chris and I'm Brandon.
[00:03:23.770] - Chris Nordyke
Join us as we wrestle with what it takes to transform ourselves and the businesses we lead. This new camera angle makes my arms look smaller than yours.
[00:03:32.380] - Brandon Reece
I'm noticing that, and I really I appreciate it. I thought you did that on purpose.
[00:03:35.250] - Chris Nordyke
No, I, I don't. I didn't, and I, I am not happy with it.
[00:03:39.580] - Brandon Reece
All right, welcome back to the Head, Heart, and Boots Podcast. Chris Nordyke.
[00:03:44.460] - Chris Nordyke
I'm Brandon Reese. And this is a new thing. I've watched you, you're like staring us back into the formal announcement.
[00:03:50.760] - Brandon Reece
Well, I feel like it's a, it's a branding thing, and I, I can get a little bit lazy with it, but you know, it's just right.
[00:03:56.110] - Chris Nordyke
I don't know, it's the work so well you stop.
[00:03:58.510] - Brandon Reece
Yeah, exactly right. Yeah, so today we're here with a special guest J. Brad Britton. And just a little bit of table setting for the conversation. So J. Brad was a senior executive with Vector Marketing and Cutco Cutlery as I was coming up as a Cutco sales rep. And I forget exactly what your title was at the time because you got, I think, promoted up a few times over the course of my time with Cutco. But we're going to get into that. And you're also the father of a son with apraxia. Which we're going to get into what that condition is and how it's shown up for you guys and your family and your relationship. But you recently came out with a book about the experience called Real Words with Sam, and the camera probably won't pick up a great shot of that, but it'll be in the show notes. I've been working my way through this for the last few weeks since we booked you for the show, J. Brad, and I want to start there with this experience with your son. I hope it's okay for me to say this. None of my children have autism or apraxia.
[00:04:56.370] - Brandon Reece
And I, like, really related to, like, the vulnerability you brought in this book, just in terms of your internal, your inner turmoil as a father and going through this journey with your son. I related really heavily to a lot of the inner turmoil that you communicate in the chapters. And so by the end of it, I had sort of this parallel journey with, in particular with my daughter, who's 20 now, that I feel like I was kind of on emotionally as I read the book with you. So anyway, here we go. That's, that's kind of the table setting. But, J, I think it's early on in the book you talk about sort of your mentality going into the diagnosis that, that you guys received for your son and some of the inner struggle that that set off for you. But just take us back to the early days when your son was a toddler and some of these behaviors and mannerisms started to show up and started to create all these question marks for you guys. Take us back there, time machine.
[00:05:55.020] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, okay. Well, you covered a lot of things. First of all, cool to be here, Chris. It has been a long time other than social media. I mean, probably face to face, it was early 2000s maybe. I don't even know. That was a while back for sure. And also, I appreciate both you guys reading the book, or Chris, you reading it, Brandon, you listening to the audiobook. It really does mean a lot, you know, because yeah, you, as you could tell put a lot, put a lot out there. As you know, as an executive, what you may or may not remember, Chris, is that I'm, you know, pretty stoic type personality. Not a lot, not a lot of highs, not a lot of lows as far as— well, I mean, high when it comes to getting excited about reaching sales goals maybe, or, or encouraging people. That's where, you know, my emotion would come out. But when it came to personal issues or even business challenges, it's like, you know, there's some things— there's things we can impact, there's things we can't. If I can't do anything about it, just, you know, I don't want to waste any brain energy on it, you know, brain or heart energy on it, or head or heart energy on it, I guess, as you, uh, you guys do.
[00:06:58.780] - J Brad Britton
Or boots, for that matter. I wouldn't want to waste boots going to do any— trying to do anything. And it's an old philosophy called can't change it. That's Stoic philosophy, focused on if the— if you can do something about something, then take action and do it. But if not, you know, move on, right? Yeah. And that's, I think, the kind of the attitude and the, you know, the philosophy that you're, you're thinking about. So yeah, the early couple of— basically the introduction in chapter 1 is what you're talking about. And also, I did it a little differently. I did introduction, then chapter 1, and then I kind of continued the introduction, you know. And yeah, it's just a lot about— it's a lot about that, you know, this mentality that helped me succeed in business, a pretty high level. I think it's valuable for anyone, an entrepreneur or anyone, or whether someone's an entrepreneur or not, just in life, kind of as a life philosophy. And I'm glad that you related to it, both you guys. And Chris, you said with no one with autism or this type of a disability. I'll give you a little insight on kind of the process of writing this, writing the book.
[00:07:59.990] - J Brad Britton
You know, I wrote 6, 7, 8 drafts of every chapter, right? And on about the 4th or 5th or 6th draft of several of the chapters, I started realizing that I might be trying to teach too much. You know, my background was training, teaching, you know, and here's a story and here's how you should think about it, right? And I started to realize that I might not need to do this, or it might be more effective or better to not draw conclusions in a lot of things. You know, if you can tell a good story that has meaning and not try to explain it, say, here's what you should think or take away from this story. Everybody's going to take away something a little different based on their worldview, their perspective, you know, their particular experiences of life. And I tried to write it in a way that makes it very universal to people. And the amount of people that have come back to me and given me feedback, and the diverse backgrounds— fathers, you know, mothers, people with disability in their family, people without disability in the family, young people who just, you know, see the world differently.
[00:09:02.590] - J Brad Britton
That people in their 20s and 30s see the world differently than people in their 40s, 50s, and 60s, you know, just because the world is different. I didn't make this up. I call it respecting the intelligence of the reader. So I just tell the story and let it sit there right now. There are a couple of chapters, you guys, since you've been through it, that there were some that I drew something out that I didn't think would be common that people would think about, Like the story, you may remember when, you know, Sam was having a very, very challenging session in, in doing his spelling, and he made no progress, and he, and he just basically stormed out to the car. And as he got out there, he just kept saying, there's more, there's more, there's more. And then he came back in, and, you know, the idea is that he had to reset. He had to go back to the beginning, like when we arrived at the car, and go there and then, and then come back in. And I've seen him do this lots of times in life. And the parallel to us is, you know, sometimes, you know, it's not failure necessarily to start over, you know.
[00:10:01.390] - J Brad Britton
If you go down the wrong track, like if you're going down the track this way and here's where you're supposed to be, it— you can't always just do that. Sometimes you got to go all the way back to here and then go to here. I don't know if that made sense, uh, or not. But so that, that was something I don't know that people would have drawn from the story. But, but for the most part, it's just putting it out there and leaving it out there. And, and, um, I'm really pleased with the, you know, with, with the feedback. It made it to Amazon bestseller in 9 categories in the first 3 weeks that it was out. And a lot of that has to do with a lot of people. I mean, I know a decent amount of people and they knew I was writing a book, and that, that really helps a lot. But a lot of the reviews, I don't, I don't know the people, the people that have left some of the Amazon reviews. So that feels really good. And people reaching out to us I was reached out to on Monday by a reporter.
[00:10:48.490] - J Brad Britton
He's written for The Guardian and The Huffington Post and places. I guess he's— I don't know where he's located, but there's this legislation going on in DC about dispelled communication, and people are saying it's not real. These people that their livelihoods depend on it not working, and it's big, crazy politicized. I don't even know why. There's so many other things that people could be talking about, challenges and problems that we got, and there's this huge thing. And this fella reached out to me because of the book and because One person who's big in the autism space, you know, mentioned my name. And anyway, I got this email Monday. He said, hey, I need some on-the-record remarks by Tuesday at noon. And it was like Monday at like 5 o'clock at night, 6 o'clock at night, I got this thing. And I'm like, on the record? Oh man, that sounds like, you know, it's like, that's from the movies, you know. I'm going to be on the record, you know. And that's— it's like scary because they always say, oh, this is not on the record, right? Like when you're on the record, you're committed to it.
[00:11:44.600] - J Brad Britton
And so I determined that it was worth it. Do it. I researched the guy. He's totally legit, got PhDs and all kinds of things. And so the article came out yesterday, and they quoted Sam and me 7 times. We got quoted in the article. In fact, the very last line is, is, uh, I got the last word of the article. And now the article's all over the autism community and the spelling— spellers community. It's kind of viral on social media. So that was kind of neat to get that exposure there too.
[00:12:13.490] - Brandon Reece
Are you excited at all about, I guess, becoming a more public advocate? I mean, as, as on the heels of writing this book, I mean, I imagine the autism community is at some level engaging you, and there's potential for you to speak at conferences and do stuff like that. Is that of interest to you?
[00:12:29.840] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, that's likely what, what will happen. It's, it's kind of— I'm kind of making a plan. I'm in this interesting transitional phase to trying to decide what to do, you know, with the book or, or to lean more into. It's just some personal coaching cohorts. I have a woman who runs a big drug rehabilitation center in LA to reach out to me about coaching her staff, like in professionalism and business and sales and just mindset, because a lot of the staff in these rehabilitation centers are people who have been rehabilitated, right? And they're wanting to give back. And she said, she says they don't really have a lot of background, you know, in, you know, professionalism and mindset and that type of thing. And so we're in kind of communication about that. And then she's talking about opening up another center closer to where I live and, you know, being a partner. And so, you know, I don't know if that is a thing, but I definitely want to get on some stages. I'm gonna— I've been on a few small ones. I've got a small speaking engagement this, uh, this Saturday. I got invited to— well, Sam and I got invited to go present at Harvard University this fall to a leadership society.
[00:13:33.050] - J Brad Britton
And I don't know how many It could be 5 people, you know. I don't, I don't know anything about it. I've got a call tomorrow to hear some details about that. But heck, just to say, oh yeah, I, I presented at Harvard, you know, just to be able to say that, even if it's one person, you know, that, that's, that's cool, cool thing to be able to say, right? So we'll see how, how that plays out. But yeah, I expect that. Now, advocate— you use the word advocate— that was not my intention, you know, to advocate. I, I don't like conflict. Obviously in business, you know, you have to it happens and you have to know how to deal with it and what have you. I don't run right up to it. Like, I know some other people in my space, some dads that I'm friends with on social media, we kind of like each other's things and repost each other's things. But some of them, they're like, they want to get in the face of the argument, right? And just walk right up and, you know, challenge the world to a duel, you know, with the gloves.
[00:14:21.650] - J Brad Britton
I'm not that, right? So advocacy is not really a direction that I would like to go. If I kind of have to, I'm forced into it, I mean, sure. But when it comes to leadership training, like there's a lot of lessons, like you said, from that I've learned from Sam. And I've got curriculums, I've got 4 or 5, you know, keynote outlines already, already created. So I think maybe the book will open some doors, but where my value is going to come is the combination of, you know, 40 years in leadership development and sales training and things that I had done. And you were, you know, part of that years ago, you and many people that have gone on to succeed at really high levels. Combined with being a Christian since I was, you know, practically a toddler, you know, 6 years old, 5 years old, and combined with this experience I've had as an autism dad and the transformation or the shift, to use an AI type of word, the shift changed everything, right? If you ever read that, AI wrote that. Yeah, right. For me, it's really true how I've changed and my perspective changed, you know, because presuming competence, right, believing in the in the ability of the individual, that's like part of Vector's core values, your core belief, right?
[00:15:33.000] - J Brad Britton
Anybody can succeed with the right effort, with the right mindset, with the right, you know, support. And so while I understood that in business, how, and I still to this day am baffled at how I missed it in my own home. You know, I just missed that connection. But now that I know, you know, how smart he is and the amount of deep mental processing that's going on in his head and the wisdom that he can share, It changed everything. No, but it changed my relationship with him dramatically, you know.
[00:16:04.360] - Brandon Reece
So, JBrad, I want to dig into that just a little bit because it's such an important part of the story. And I think, you know, inevitably we have listeners that have children with some kind of neurodivergent, you know, condition that— yeah, that is perplexing to them and is difficult, and I would guess in some cases scary, and creates a lot of uncertainty in their family. And so I'd love for you just to speak about the early days, like one of the first things you talk about in the book that just stood out to me was that, that spelling workshop that you guys were when you were first exposed to that sort of methodology. And before that, because I know that was a big turning point, I want you to talk about that. For those people that don't have neurodivergent children or children with autism, what was family life like and what was it like being a dad? Because you were really vulnerable about this in the book. What was that like pre-having some of these discoveries when you were just kind of trying to like wrestle through it?
[00:17:03.210] - J Brad Britton
That's part of the reason that this was written because I didn't really wrestle through it. I just kind of avoided it, you know, and I think that's pretty common for dads with children on the spectrum, children neurodiverse, other kinds of disabilities. You know, I just had accepted that this You know, he is who he is. Love him. You know, all kinds of joyful type of things that happen on a daily basis. You know, when he's being good, he's an angel. But when— I shouldn't say he's not being good, is not the right word. But when he's in a meltdown mode, you know, it's 10x what people with non-neurotypical children are dealing with. And of course, the world thinks that, oh, they're bad parents. They don't know how to discipline. You know, they don't this, they don't that. And, you know, I just kind of got to the point where I just could ignore that. My wife didn't ignore that. She would go right up to people and talk to them. She didn't care. But I would just avoid it. And it was just avoidance, you know. My job was to make money. My job was to pay for every possible type of therapy we could think of to try because what if, you know.
[00:18:12.520] - J Brad Britton
And I didn't avoid my son. You know, one year we went to Legoland 50 times in one year, one time. We just happened to be taking him to a program that a little bit out of the way on the way home, I could drop by Legoland for 3 or 4 or 5 hours, you know. So I like to do things with him. But we were doing things kind of side by side. I didn't ever feel like we were doing it together. Now, he probably did. And I believe that he did, you know, but he also knew, he could tell that I didn't respect his intelligence. I didn't know that he knew the things and he was thinking about things the way he was thinking about things. I sometimes say when I'm on a podcast or in a face-to-face speech, people say, "Well, why did you write this book?" I'll say, "Well, I learned how to change history." Right now, you can't change the past, right, like in a time machine, but you can change history, because history is what we remember. Our history is how we think about things. And when I learned from that symposium that I watched, where I watched a young man spell for the first time, and then when my son 2 years later started spelling and spelled some actual, you know, original thoughts to us and telling us, you know, who he is through answering these questions he was being asked.
[00:19:24.560] - J Brad Britton
It changed all my memories, right? I mean, the memory of what happened is still there, but the memory of what was happening is different, you know, because knowing that he understood— sometimes I'm really happy and it brings me a lot of joy, and a lot of times it brings me, frankly, shame. You know, we're at the mall or something and he'll like cut in line, or I'm just using that as an example, or he'll do something that's, you know, not appropriate. And, you know, someone will start to get a little angry, perhaps. Let's say if he's starting to cut in line and I'll walk up and say, sorry, sir, he, he doesn't understand what you're saying, because they're talking to him. But what I didn't realize then is he totally understood. He just couldn't do anything about it because of apraxia, you know. And for the listeners that never heard of apraxia, I mean, this is— that's another reason I think I wrote the book, is because It's shocking that I had never heard the term in 18 years of having a son. What that was, you know, in fact, I don't even know— this is going to be controversial, but I think a lot of people that are diagnosed with autism, what they have is really apraxia.
[00:20:23.440] - J Brad Britton
And maybe they don't even have autism. Like, I don't— maybe my son doesn't even have autism because what is it, autism? And there's not even any one like narrow definition of it anyway. But apraxia is when the brain is functioning just fine and it tells the body to do something, you know, to touch your nose, and they do that, or, or they pick up a glass, you know. And the brain is saying touch your nose, right, but the body just won't, won't respond. And it's very inconsistent. Like, obviously Sam can go to the kitchen and get some ice and put it in a cup— or not obviously, but, but he can. So he can do things that his brain is telling him, but it's, it's sporadic. And if there's ever anxiety or anticipation it just causes his body to fight against what he really wants to do. And that is the most bizarre thing. And it's still happening. I mean, just in, just in the last few weeks, instances where he was supposed to go whale watching with the, the group of people that he, he has a program that he goes to. He's studying, he's on studying his last high school class, you know, he gets to work on that independently at this program.
[00:21:26.440] - J Brad Britton
They go to the gym and they do, they do the various little trips. Well, they're supposed to go whale watching. And he'd been talking about it for 2 weeks, you know, the day was coming, the whale watching day. It was a Tuesday a couple of weeks ago. And he got up early that morning, got his clothes on, put his backpack on. He was ready to go 30 minutes before the girl came to pick him up. The lady came to pick him up and she got there and, you know, he's trying to make himself move and he just, he can't do it. And he sits back down and, you know, 10 minutes, 20 minutes, it starts, the screaming starts, just yelling. The mom, not being able to handle it. And, you know, the mom crying starts and everything, you know, it's like, what's going on? Why does— won't he go? You know, he just wouldn't. He just wouldn't go. Finally, 45 minutes later, the people had already left and there was no way he was going to catch up even if they just drove straight to, to where the whale watching was going to happen. And later that day, he had a spelling session.
[00:22:22.380] - J Brad Britton
And where they'll sometimes do for us, if we ask them to do a check-in, and a check-in is where they'll ask They'll do their normal process, which you read in one of the chapters that talks about how they start with reading a paragraph and they do step by step and slowly getting— adding more cognitive questions that need to take more cognitive energy. And so they asked him, "Sam, your family would like to know, you know, how you're doing and what happened this morning." Right? And I wish I had this pulled up, but I'll try to give it to verbatim. He said something like, I eagerly anticipated this experience, but the anticipation— no, he didn't use anticipation twice. He had— he used a different word. He puts together these really interesting sentences. But basically said the anticipation built up, and what occurred was I did the opposite of what I wanted to do. Basically said I just couldn't get myself to go because the anticipation had built up too much. I'm like, wow, you know. And it's— and I have to say, as hard as that was on us, you know, trying to get him to go and coaxing and trying every thing that we knew.
[00:23:24.780] - J Brad Britton
And well, maybe you don't know, but you can imagine, right? As hard as it is on us and as frustrating it is, because we got things, you know, we want to do in life, to, you know, a list of things, it's harder on him, you know. And I have to continually say that. And there's a chapter in the book that talks about that when we're on that cruise, you know. It's harder on you than it is on me. It's harder than you than it is on me. And I have to just remember the, the cage, you know, really, that he's in. As, as smart as he is, and having to deal with that. And it's just— things just take practice, right? And it has to do with, I think, I'm not a scientist, but myelination of the nerves. You know, when you know how to do something, the nerve is myelinated. There's a coating, insulation around the nerve that allows the electronic impulse to go from the brain to wherever it needs to go to tell the body what to do. Well, there's very little myelination in a lot of these brains. And if you practice something over and over, like spelling, right?
[00:24:19.390] - J Brad Britton
That's a practice. It's a motor skill. It's practice. Is it slowly myelinates, whereas with us, like, you can be driving home from somewhere that you drive all the time and you're on autopilot, and all of a sudden you're in the driveway and you're like, whoa, what even happened? I didn't even know. It's because it just, you know, there's— it's highly— I guess there's heavy myelination in there. Now, some scientist is going to tell me that I'm describing this wrong, I'm sure.
[00:24:42.580] - Chris Nordyke
But, you know, one of the things that stood out to me, JBrad, is, is that it's kind of like this idea of humility in the sense of having to relearn or reset expectations. And there was like this kind of ongoing vibe of, of an increase in curiosity is kind of what helped solve this gap between, you know, you and your perspective on your son's capability and what your son was really capable of. And I— it's interesting because Chris opens the conversation with, I paralleled you even though I don't have a son with this type of disability. In reality, like, and I, I don't want to take away from Right? So like the scenario that you and your son are partnering in, it's, it's extreme, right? But, and there's this element of, I think that gap exists between us and a lot of people groups, whether it be teenage kids, whether it be employees in our organizations that don't see the world as a CEO or as an executive. Like there's this element of, I just felt deep respect to curiosity and what that meant in terms of equipping you to learn and drive a new perspective on what you thought your son was capable of.
[00:25:50.730] - Chris Nordyke
And to me, like, that's a universal lesson that creates all sorts of outcomes that are super powerful, whether it be a deeper bond in relationship, a more productive and unified workforce, like, whatever the case may be. That's what I've been struck with. And again, I don't want— I'm not trying to take away from the uniqueness of this situation.
[00:26:11.840] - J Brad Britton
No, not at all. Not at all.
[00:26:13.110] - Chris Nordyke
Powerful, you know?
[00:26:14.560] - J Brad Britton
It totally makes sense. And you touched on a keyword that I try to lean into and gravitated toward and feel like I've tried to embrace, you know, for most of my business life, and that's curiosity. Stay curious. You know, you— what good leaders need to be curious before critical, right? You probably heard that, right? And it's easy to— if someone's late 6 days in a row or something, it's like, come on, what are you doing, right? But we don't know what's going on, you know. We don't know what— there could be something, you know, heinous happening. And it's just not about being late. I was just using that as an example. So that curiosity is just an important thing to have in leadership. There's a lot of things like, as a leader, as a human even, how do we balance certain things? Like I kind of have some framework around some training about balance, you know, and I think the way most people think about balance is work-life balance, you know, and it's just a myth. What people, this utopian thing that they expect, it's not even a thing. Okay, it's not real. Yeah, you know, because there's seasons.
[00:27:12.590] - J Brad Britton
Like, I mean, like, just to walk, you're completely— you're out of balance when you walk, right? In order to move forward, if you start to lean forward and then move your foot, if you didn't move that other foot, you would just fall on your face, right? You're not in balance. And so to progress anywhere, you have to— you have to constantly be out of— out of balance, right? And so there are things that are seemingly opposites that if you apply some wisdom to it, they become allies. They're not necessarily opposites. Opposites. I get this— I think I get this from, uh, Jim Collins. Jim Collins wrote a book that most people have read, a book called Good to Great, right, about getting the right people on the bus. But he wrote a book before that which I think is better. It's called Built to Last. He talks about this, this concept which I just absolutely love. It's the genius of the and, right, the A-N-D, versus the tyranny of the or, right? And it's the idea in business or in life that people think they've got to choose choose between two things, right? Maybe an entrepreneur might choose between having a successful business or a rich family life, right?
[00:28:14.500] - J Brad Britton
Well, this is probably one of the purposes of your podcast is you don't have to choose. But, but there's a lot of things that people think they have to choose between. And as a leader, I think about urgency, right? It's important to embrace urgency, but there's also patience, right? We have to balance those two things.
[00:28:31.050] - Brandon Reece
Right?
[00:28:31.280] - J Brad Britton
Ambition and contentment.
[00:28:33.040] - Brandon Reece
Right?
[00:28:33.280] - J Brad Britton
Vision and realism. Right? Acceptance and action. Right? Conviction and surrender. I call the— call these counterweights. Right? I might write a book called Counterweights.
[00:28:42.340] - Brandon Reece
Right?
[00:28:42.920] - J Brad Britton
And the thing is, there's not like, okay, how do I balance confidence and humility? There's not like a written formula for how to do it. It's mostly just understanding that I need to have both those two things. You know, accountability and grace. You know, I mean, these two things, in order to lead effectively, I need to be able to know that both of these things exist and just, just be cognizant of it, right? I call that— the idea is, and this is going to be fun because for you, the head, heart, and boots, a brand that I'm— I've got like a little wordmark logo, etc. It's called the HeartMind Leader, right? We're leading with the heart and the mind equally. And if ever there was a time where I've got to lean one way or the other, right, let's say it's an odd number, let's, you know, it's 99, not 100%, and I have to lean 1% one way or the other, I'm going to lead heart, right? I'm going to always err in the favor of people. But the idea is I'm going to lead with both of those at the same time. And most leaders lead far too much with one or the other, I believe, yeah, right?
[00:29:47.580] - J Brad Britton
And so this concept of the heart-mind leader just has— it just balances out all these all these different counterweights. The original term I came up with, balance tension pairs, right? I'm like, that doesn't roll off the tongue. That doesn't sound— I can't call a book balance tension pairs, you know? And somehow counterweights emerged eventually. I might have even been asking AI, you know, Tony Minitz, we're talking about, what can I call these things? They're really good. It's a great concept.
[00:30:12.500] - Brandon Reece
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[00:31:06.080] - Brandon Reece
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[00:32:13.680] - J Brad Britton
Yeah.
[00:32:14.100] - Brandon Reece
And then combining with a fear of kind of what I think I know about the world and how my life has played out and what her current state means for the rest of her life. You know, it's like— and in hindsight, right, I'm now like you. I'm kind of reliving some of our history with her as I've grown to understand her better.
[00:32:37.730] - J Brad Britton
Yeah.
[00:32:37.830] - Brandon Reece
And understand all those moments that we were in. But I'm curious if that was a struggle for you early days. I mean, you talked about kind of your own stoicism, and that's been sort of a key element in your own leadership and success. But I just wonder in your own quiet moments, like, was anger— was it a struggle? And, you know, was that a thing for you early on? And how did you move through that? Or how did you deal with that?
[00:32:59.880] - J Brad Britton
These are good questions. Very introspective. Right? I think that was one of the words that Sam defined in one of his pages. How would you define introspection? And it said— oh shoot, I'm going to say this out there and I'm going to forget the answer. It was a very profound answer to the, to the thing. In fact, I'm gonna, I'm gonna look it up right now because it's going to bother me if I don't. How would you define introspection? He says, trying to inspect unconscious patterns going on inside yourself. Right? It's a brilliant explanation.
[00:33:28.780] - Chris Nordyke
The economy of words and everything.
[00:33:31.060] - Brandon Reece
Yeah.
[00:33:31.700] - Chris Nordyke
Right?
[00:33:32.410] - J Brad Britton
Yeah. He's got so many really great things there. But I will say, we're all different, right? We all think of ourselves as more different than everybody else. But anger is not something I've dealt with much in my life. I mean, I've been genuinely angry twice in my life, and won't go into the stories. That's just not something I've really dealt with. Perplexed, frustrated, I can say I can go there. Yeah, and it's young people. Here we are, all of a certain age, and there's people that might be listening to this that are 20, 30 years younger. Yeah, the idea of anxiety, you know, it's like, well, anxiety wasn't a thing when I was in middle school, you know. I mean, we just call it being scared, you know, and you just dealt with it, right? So for us to hear someone say, well, my anxiety was acting up, or I was having an anxiety attack, even— this is where where we've got to balance, you know, I've got to balance my experience in life with the very real experience that this person is having. I have to say, you know, if my life had been exactly like their life— I dealt with— I had the same experiences, the same parenting, the same environment, the same whatever else I dealt with— I'd likely think the way that they do, right?
[00:34:40.300] - J Brad Britton
And that's something I had— I came to grips with a long time ago. I use this very extreme example, you know, there are people in the world in the world that— you might have to cut this— but they practice human sacrifice, right? Tribes in who knows where, remote areas, or cannibalism, you know, or things like that. And I think, how evil! I mean, that's just, that's just like the epitome of evil, right? But you know what? If I was born in that environment, born in that tribe, born at the time when those people were born, and lived through everything, and was taught everything that they were taught, You know, I mean, yeah, why would I— why would I think any different than that person? And so this is what leads me to, to this idea of grace, you know, just everybody deserves grace because I just don't know where they came from and what they're doing and what they're going through is not where I came from and what I'm going through, right? I can't put myself in their shoes, you know. They say, you know, walk a mile in another man's moccasins. Well, you can't.
[00:35:32.710] - J Brad Britton
You just have to— you just have to take a breath and focus on loving people, you know what I mean? And be of service in any way that you can. You know, another framework I'm working with and the things that I'm quote teaching, I'm not actually teaching it yet, but things that I think I'll be leaning into in cohorts or whatever is, I'll call it the learner's posture, right? I wanna take it a step further and call it the disciple's posture, but people might think I'm trying to make something religious out of it. But it's this idea of when I go out into the world, there's two things that I want to do. First, I want to learn. I want to learn from everybody, and I want to have this mindset that I can learn from everybody, right? I've misquoted Confucius many times, and I'm going to misquote Confucius again because what I'm going to say is not exactly what was said originally, even though I thought it was. But I thought Confucius said something along the lines of, put me in a room full of people and I can always find a teacher. Okay, just really cool, right?
[00:36:27.520] - J Brad Britton
But the actual quote is something like, if walking a path with two people, I can always find a teacher or something like that. And it basically implies that one, I can learn how to be better, and one, I can learn things to avoid. You know, that's kind of the—
[00:36:39.550] - Brandon Reece
everybody's a teacher.
[00:36:40.580] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, yeah, that's kind of the Confucius thing. But, but his is about two people, but I would take it one step further. Put me in a room with one other person and I can find a teacher, right? So that's kind of like— not that I'm wiser than Confucius, but I kind of started embracing that a long time ago. But It really, after, you know, learning about my son's intelligence, it's— I really try to embrace that. So go out in the world and I want to learn from everybody, right? And if I think about the learner's posture, the disciple's posture, but the other half of that is I want to bless people, I want to serve people, right? So if I go out into the world and I can get this mindset right in the morning every day, I'm going to go out to learn from everybody I can learn from, which when people know that somebody learned something from it, it builds them up.
[00:37:22.560] - Brandon Reece
Right?
[00:37:22.880] - J Brad Britton
It builds their, builds their pride and their confidence and makes them better equipped to do the next thing that they're going to do. But also that I'm going to serve and I'm going to bless people, right? And it's not easy. It's not a natural thing for me, at least, to think those ways. It's a conscious effort I've got to make to think about, okay, I'm going to go out and I have to— I mean, I probably should make some code or a little logo and tattoo it somewhere that I see it all the time because I need to constantly be reminded of this disciple's posture, you know, to learn and bless.
[00:37:52.010] - Chris Nordyke
I want to kind of piggyback on something that you were talking about a little bit earlier, and it's something obviously from the story of your son, is it's kind of like this idea that I've called in the past, like, existing in your— in the outer edge of your current capability, right? So it's like this idea of being out of balance. You're saying if you're growing, you're out of balance, because, right, that step automatically puts you out of balance. You can And one of the things I've just tried to remind myself for a large part of my life now is that if I'm growing, if I'm doing something to pursue growth, I'm going to be uncomfortable because I'm going to be looking at a task or a responsibility that in its current state is outside of my currently known capability or competency or whatever the case may be. I was just kind of thinking about the story of your son, how you know, some of this might be real or some of it might actually just be the growth in your perception of your son's capability. But he's operating outside of kind of at the current edge, right, of what he's capable of doing, whether it be in these spelling programs or some of these other things that you're trying to do or take him on.
[00:38:56.330] - Chris Nordyke
Anyways, what were you learning? Like, as you're watching your son be in this state of kind of being on the outer edge of known capability, you're on the outer edge of your understanding of, of his capacity. How did you kind of work through that? How does that show up maybe potentially in the way that you've led people and encouraging them to be, I would say, uncomfortable or comfortable in the uncomfortable, right? Being on the outer edge of their current capacity, continuing to pursue growth. Like, how do you see that? What do you do there?
[00:39:26.780] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, there's some quotes around, you know, you have to be, you have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. That's a big one. I know Steve Harvey he used to say it a lot. I'm sure it went back before Steve Harvey, but the one that, as you were talking, I wish I had this Rolodex, I could look all these up fast enough. Of course, if I wasn't talking to you, I could just ask Claude, you know, what's the quote. Yeah, that's right, um, but it's something, growth exists on the other side of your obstacles, or on the other side of your greatest fear.
[00:39:51.810] - Brandon Reece
I think it's one of the ones I've heard.
[00:39:52.760] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, yeah. Anyway, so yeah, what you're saying is a very real thing, and, and I think the thing that I am challenged by, which I kind of have to come to grips with over and over, is A lot of those things, you know, I've embraced in business and leadership coaching, leadership training, if you want to— with just being a good manager or leader of people is I've embraced those things with generally with the public. And a point that I like to make, and I don't make it in the book, I don't draw this conclusion, but what I want people to get from it is that, you know, it's really easy to just take for granted the people that are the closest to us, you know. And this is the cause of a lot of conflict in families, a lot of divorce We just— someone who's a high-powered business leader, they really work hard to, if they're effective the right way, stroke the ego, so to speak, recognize people, appreciate people for their contributions, because they know that those that appreciate— what you appreciate appreciates, right? And that it's going to help people to move forward, right?
[00:40:46.960] - J Brad Britton
We create who people are and what they can accomplish based on how we see them, right? Uh, Goethe has Gurte has a quote, if we treat someone as— treat a man as he is, he'll never grow. But if we treat him as who he could be, you know, they'll grow a lot. And Gurte didn't say it that way, but you understand that point. Yeah, it's funny that I have all these quote— the concept of the quotes, I just am having trouble getting the quotes in my head. Um, you know, and there's been studies that kind of show this same type of thing too, you know, that the study was done in the 1940s, I think, where they gave these teachers and they said, oh, you've got the gifted kids in your class, you know, and you're— we chose them to go to you because you're some of the best teachers. You know, they're kind of lazy, so you kind of have to push them, but they should blow past the material.
[00:41:32.390] - Chris Nordyke
You—
[00:41:32.870] - J Brad Britton
I wouldn't be surprised if you're way ahead of schedule by the end of the year, right? And come to find out, that actually did happen, right? The teachers— those kids were like, uh, 50% further along in the curriculum than the, the regular classes, so to to speak. And at the end of the time, they basically made the statement that, well, there wasn't anything special. These kids were chosen at random. And so just because you perceived that they were smarter, they did better. And they asked the teachers, why do you think that is? And they said, well, it must be because you chose us as the best teachers. I mean, we, we were the ones. It had to be us. Like, no, we drew names out of a hat who was going to be the teachers that were going to get those groups. And so it's like simply the expectation, you know, created. And so in business easy to embrace because it makes sense. It's logical to me that that's going to happen. But it's so much more challenging, at least for me— I can't speak for everybody— but I— to take that same approach, so to speak, because you don't want to manage your family.
[00:42:26.090] - J Brad Britton
You know, there are things that should be done in both places, but, you know, my wife doesn't want to be managed. You know, she knows, she's smart, she's been in leadership roles and things like that. But it's easy to take those things for granted. And like with Sam, Now, when he wants to get my attention, he'll come in here into my office and the door locks, but I don't usually lock it. And he'll come in and he'll, he'll just be saying some words that about something happening in 2 weeks, you know, and he'll just come in and say it over and over. And he's trying to communicate something to me, probably has nothing to do with what he's— but the words that are coming out of his mouth, you know, like he wants to know what we're going to do on Saturday, right? We've been over the Saturday schedule. First, we're going to do— he loves to wash the clothes. He washes all the clothes in the house. Even if there's no clothes dirty, he'll go find clothes to wash. He just loves to do the laundry, which my wife is thrilled, right? He never doesn't hurt her.
[00:43:14.050] - J Brad Britton
Yeah. So we're gonna do laundry, then we're gonna do spelling, then we're gonna get dressed, then we're gonna go to the bus stop, right? And we're gonna go, you know, take the train, we're gonna go bowling, we're gonna come home, you know. And we walk through that scenario 10, 15 times a day, right, leading up to Saturday, right? Now Saturday comes and it may take 30 or 40 minutes to get him out of the house you know, to actually start moving. And sometimes we never move. But the point is, he'll want to go through that with me. And maybe he just wants to spend time with me. Maybe he just— maybe he wants confirmation that that's still the plan. I don't know. But I'll be doing stuff. I'll be, you know, working on an email or something or other. But I've learned I've gotta— when he wants my attention— I mean, what's more important, right, than, than as a dad giving my child that kind of attention? If, if prized employee needed my attention, I would drop everything and I would, you know, talk to him. So I will turn, fully face him, you know, wait for him to say what we need to say.
[00:44:06.550] - J Brad Britton
We interact, and, and I think he can feel whether I'm doing it just to placate him or not. So I have to, like, genuinely release all of the things to be able to give him that time and attention. And I think we don't do that with the people that matter the most very often, and because it's who I am. One thing I'm going to be teaching, uh, speaking at a women's ministry spring brunch or something this Saturday, and I'm going to make sure I make that explanation with Sam, you know, how being fully present and how important that is for everybody around us. But I mean, what's the most important relationship that a lot of us have depending on our beliefs? Well, it's a relationship with Christ, right? It's a relationship with God. And how often do I not give God my full attention, right? I, whenever the time comes, or, you know, kind of the new prayer that I have really started embracing for the last several months is, I love you, God. Thank you, God. I'm listening, God. Right? And one of my keynote messages is called Listen First Communication, and it's about how to listen.
[00:45:05.810] - J Brad Britton
You don't just listen with your ears, right? You listen with your ears, your, your eyes, your heart, and your mind, right? Well, it has to do with the heart-mind leader, and you have to be fully present, right? If I owe that to my son, I mean, maybe I don't owe it to God, but I mean, if I really wanna nurture that relationship, I've gotta go into life with that kind of mindset as well.
[00:45:24.220] - Chris Nordyke
It's extremely challenging.
[00:45:26.780] - J Brad Britton
Indeed.
[00:45:27.200] - Chris Nordyke
Yeah, extremely challenging. I think that that's one of those things where I get frustrated as a leader. The constant context shifting makes it very difficult for me to prioritize being present in the conversation I'm having. Currently in. I mean, I feel it right now. Like, you know, the business is still running behind us. We're recording a show right now, but the business didn't build— oh, cool, we'll pause for an hour and 15 minutes while you run this show.
[00:45:52.270] - Brandon Reece
And so it is—
[00:45:53.380] - Chris Nordyke
that is difficult. And I've realized over time how short I— or what's the term I'm looking for— how I've devalued the opportunity I had in a moment because I was already focused on the next one. And I've got a human being sitting in front of me right now.
[00:46:10.980] - J Brad Britton
Mm-hmm.
[00:46:11.530] - Chris Nordyke
And I'm not there. I'm not fully present. I'm not engaged in the conversation the same level because I'm worried about next week, tomorrow, later this afternoon. And, you know, every once in a while you get a good reminder where you slow down for a moment and you recognize that. And, you know, fortunately we have an opportunity to kind of rebound, maybe hit reset, do something a little differently. But man, unfortunately, I feel like there's more times that I look in the rearview mirror and I missed the opportunity than it was that I was really present, took advantage of it. Yeah, it's a good reminder, dude. Like, that's a valuable—
[00:46:42.740] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, what you're saying is common though. I mean, because— and I think one of the keys is to try not to put yourself in scenarios where people can, can interrupt you. Like, if you've got a task that you need to focus on, some deep work, whether it's working on a project or something like that, you need to go somewhere like I would need to lock this door, right, or go somewhere where my family's not around, right? Because if they come up and want my attention and I've got this thing and I really need to do and it's important, then I have to choose. It's like the genius of the ant. It's hard to have the genius of the ant, right? Because I've read it says it takes, you know, 20 minutes to get the brain from one task to another to really be focused, to be able to focus in on deep work. And so if that's important, I've got to get away somewhere else. I can't work from home, for example, or at least I lock the door or whatever else. Or let it be known to the family. With Sam, well, I used to think he wouldn't understand if I said, hey, I really need to be able to focus, so if you come and need my attention, I won't be able to give it to you for a little while, but at this time I'll be able to give you my full attention.
[00:47:40.990] - J Brad Britton
First of all, I gotta stay true to my word if I'm gonna say that to my family or to whoever else, and then it's more likely that they'll understand. You know, they may or may not, but more likely that they'll understand. Why I'm, why I'm doing it is because I explained it ahead of time.
[00:47:53.830] - Chris Nordyke
Yeah, I agree.
[00:47:54.700] - Brandon Reece
Hey, JBrad, I want to take a turn here because I absolutely cannot let this podcast interview go by without us talking a little bit about your experience with Vector and Cutco.
[00:48:03.450] - J Brad Britton
Sure.
[00:48:03.630] - Brandon Reece
Because I, I just, I've said it to college students I've met with, I've recommended Cutco Vector to so many young people as just an incredibly transformative business experience early in their careers. But I think what I'm so enamored with now, you know, 25 years later, is frankly how Cutco Vector ever even succeeded. I mean, when you, when you just look at the model on paper of recruiting 18 to 20-year-olds who have no sales background in almost every example, and within 3 days of training, get them selling knives in people's homes, it's extraordinary. I mean, it really is an extraordinary thing, and I wondered if you could talk a little bit about your experience in that because you spent, what, 20+ years with Cutco Vector? How long were you?
[00:48:51.040] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, well, 1988 till 2024. So really, I mean, it's 36 years, but I had a 9-year kind of a hiatus in the midst of that, but I was never fully out, you know, I mean, the relationships that you form are, you know, are strong over those. So I'd say 36 years, 37, 36, 37 years. But, you know, 10 years in the field, 7 years as a corporate executive, 9 years kind of out, and then back another 10 years in the field— 9 or 10 years in the, in the field as a division manager. Because when you started, I was the region sales director, I think, and then I was promoted to region manager. Both of those are employee positions, like W-2. Yeah, everybody else— well, not everybody, but everybody else in the sales field is independent contractor managers. And then, and then when I came back, I came as an independent contractor. It was, it was more fun to be a division manager than it was to be a region manager, I think. You know, pros and cons. I mean, hard to make that comparison. Yeah, I spent a lot of years there, and a lot of the things I've been talking about were things that were cultivated, ideas and frameworks that were cultivated there.
[00:49:51.430] - J Brad Britton
People will say to top managers, they'll say to me, or they'll say to Dan Cassata, or they'll say to some of the, some of the, the greats, any of the current region managers, they'll say, well, what did you do to help Elrod get to this level, right? Or John Burgoff, and names that are pretty well known outside of Cutco. Even Travis Kalanick was a Cutco rep. I don't know if you knew that. He— Pasadena, who founded Uber, the founder of Uber. I never met him. I can't take credit necessarily, but you don't do anything, okay? You don't— I mean, well, it's accumulation of all the things that you do, I guess, is probably a better way to say it. But what you just created, an environment where people can grow, where there's opportunity and people can grow, and you, and you provide them with support. And not everybody's gonna go gangbusters, but most won't. A lot of people— but a lot of people will, you know. And that's all you can do as a leader. You can just create an environment where there's a growth mindset, there's a learning mindset, there's, you know, talking some of the things we talked about, you know, there's, there's accountability, there's grace and opportunity, you know.
[00:50:51.490] - J Brad Britton
And recognize the heck out of people. I mean, That was probably the thing I was the best at in KUKO is just recognizing people. I mean, I can't tell you how many little handwritten, thousands and thousands and thousands of little handwritten notes that I sent. You know, the weekly newsletter would come out and back before you just printed them online, they mailed them to, you know, you circle someone's name, write a little note, right? Send it to them in the mail. That goes a really, really long way. You know, I signed my emails, "PS, you're awesome." You know, a lot of times it's part of my standard signature that's in there. And I think there's probably a whole nother book to be written just about recognizing people. And Maya Angelou, when someone said, people don't care what you do, they care, you know, they don't remember what you do, they remember how you made them feel. And so you just got to give people that opportunity to, in an environment to be able to grow. You basically till the soil, water it, but it's still up to the seed to grow.
[00:51:46.590] - Brandon Reece
Yeah, yeah. So you started as a sales rep yourself. Everybody, everybody in Texas.
[00:51:51.970] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, virtually everybody. Yeah, 1988. Yeah, college student in Texas, sure.
[00:51:56.690] - Brandon Reece
Yeah, and then you ultimately became a branch manager. Is that when you moved to California and opened a branch in Sacramento, or what was that path?
[00:52:04.830] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, so I mean, most people listening, this will mean nothing to them whatsoever, but you know. So yeah, no, I started in Houston. I opened my branch office in in Beaumont, Texas. We broke the all-time national record as a branch manager, but we still came in number 2 that year. So nobody remembers who was number 2, even though we did break the all-time record. Somebody else just broke it by a lot higher. I was there for 1 year. I moved to Oklahoma City. There was an opportunity to be a division manager, to grow into a division manager position up there, Oklahoma, Arkansas, that area. But I only was there for, for 4 months of the summer of 1990. And then at the end of the summer, I moved to Sacramento. Okay, and that was the fall of 1990. And I was in Sacramento for 10 years before, and ended up running all of North California and also Southland as well, which is why I met you, 'cause I was manager of both divisions for a little while, which is not too common, but it happens. And you were working out of the Pasadena office?
[00:52:59.480] - Brandon Reece
I was in the Northwest. I came in under Mark Lowe.
[00:53:02.170] - J Brad Britton
Oh, Lowe, it's okay. Who started in my office as a branch, as a rep. And then, and that's right, but you branched in Southern California and you worked with JP.
[00:53:09.100] - Brandon Reece
That's right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I was under Mark and then Mark promoted Isaac Tolpin.
[00:53:13.830] - J Brad Britton
I see, yeah.
[00:53:14.650] - Brandon Reece
And I started out in Ian McKenzie's branch.
[00:53:16.880] - J Brad Britton
Oh yeah, he had national champion. You had a great legacy. Ian and then Lovison and Tolpin. I mean, you know, 3 national champions in a row. That's pretty, pretty special.
[00:53:26.900] - Brandon Reece
Pretty incredible, yeah. And I've been fortunate to stay in touch with Isaac over the years And, you know, he's obviously gone on to do all kinds of— start and do all kinds of great things. But yeah, I think what I'm just most— so many of our listeners, this is why this is relevant, I believe, is so many of our owner clients and listeners, they are struggling to figure out how do I work with these young 19, 20, 21, 22, 23-year-olds. And of course, Cutco has built an entire legacy and brand around working with 18, 19, and 20-year-olds. And one of the things I've talked with our clients about and I've brought up in keynotes and trainings and things I've done is the importance of PDI. And I'm curious just for your perspective in hindsight and both at the time when you were leading and managing in the field, like how important was that PDI piece?
[00:54:13.270] - Chris Nordyke
I'm going to define that real quick. Yeah.
[00:54:15.050] - Brandon Reece
So PDI, yeah, for those of you who don't know, Personal Daily Interaction. Yeah. Is what PDI stands for. And it was something that was prescribed to all of us in our management training program. But could you just kind of describe I imagine you were around— was that always around when you first got into Cutco?
[00:54:29.380] - J Brad Britton
Oh yeah, oh yeah, PDI. I got PDI'd as a rep, you know, and they would say it's personal daily interaction, positive daily injection, you know, people would call it. And then my manager, this is a direct quote, so don't shoot me, but he would say pretty damn important that the PDI would stand for things. But yeah, it's not all that practical in every type of business, but it was— well, I guess you have to make it practical. It wasn't practical in Cutco either. I mean, we had long, long days. I mean, you know, you get up in the morning, you know, get into the office, you PDI for an hour, basically just calling people, asking how, checking in, how's their day. And then you maybe run an interview, then you maybe run an advanced training, then you run a, then you PDI for another 2 hours, and then you run another interview, and then you PDI for 3 hours at the end of the day, right? And it's, it's just all day. You're just constantly calling every single person on the team and just checking in. How you doing? What's, what's going on? You know, maybe they just had an appointment and they had a no sale.
[00:55:24.360] - J Brad Britton
Maybe you're talking through it a little bit and you know, what did they say? What did you say? How did you handle it? What's your mindset after that? Here's what you can try next time, right? So it's just, it's teaching. It's well, there was actually, we call it the 4 I's of PDI, right? There was, you know, information. Hey, we've got a team meeting coming up tomorrow, or hey, we've got a conference coming up. You know, inspiration, instruction, right? And there was another I, but you know, there was little frameworks, you know, to work through in that. But really, but now that I look back on it, it's just a way to help. Everybody was seen, valued, and heard. You know, you're just, you're just making them know that they're important. It's my, my boss is taking the time, you know, to call me. And it's different now because nobody picks up their phone, everybody texts, and you know, there's different kinds of PDI's taken on different, different flavors and different flares. And I think I hear Sam coming in. Sam may come in and say hello to us here in a minute. Well, hey, that's great.
[00:56:13.870] - J Brad Britton
Yeah.
[00:56:14.910] - Brandon Reece
Well, you know, the way I always thought about PDI, or I should say the way I thought about it 20 years later, I think I realized the value of it in hindsight, which was, you know, salespeople have bad days and if they're not careful and if they're not coached and supported, those bad days can turn into 2 bad days and 2 bad days can turn into a bad week. And I feel like in hindsight, I wish I had been more diligent. I frankly probably would have increased my results and my performance.
[00:56:40.900] - J Brad Britton
Performance.
[00:56:41.720] - Brandon Reece
I wish I was more diligent in the PDI back in the day because the ability to pick somebody up after a single bad demo, you know, with a customer or a no sale, and to get them reactivated and re-motivated out there and make another call or set more appointments or get more referrals.
[00:56:57.510] - J Brad Britton
That's, yeah, that's the whole idea. You're right on. Yeah, you just— people's brains will play tricks on them, you know, neurodiverse or not. And you have one appointment that doesn't go your way, we By the way, we would train people not to say bad— there's no such thing as a bad day, right? There's a character-building day that you might have, right? It's a day that builds your character. You know, the things don't go your way, but there's no— never failure, there's only learning, right? And there's little mantras that you kind of, you know, jam into someone's brain. But I mean, I can't tell you how many reps— I'm certain thousands would have quit had I not called them after that third appointment that they ever did, that the person you know, laughed at them or something. And on my second appointment, the person laughed at me when I told them the price. They just like literally fell on the floor laughing.
[00:57:39.490] - Chris Nordyke
That'll shake your confidence.
[00:57:40.470] - J Brad Britton
Oh yeah, it wasn't, it was not positive at all. I was terrible in the beginning. I mean, I was one of those really bad starters, you know, or slow starters. My first 20 appointments, normally 20 appointments, if someone's not doing very well, they'll make 8, 9, or 10 sales. And someone who's doing pretty well will make, you know, 15 sales. I made 1, right? And it was my mom, you know, so.
[00:57:58.550] - Brandon Reece
I remember you telling that at a conference.
[00:58:00.170] - J Brad Britton
I did not, uh, did not have the fastest start, but there, you know, looking back, there's some things that I did have in place. Like I scheduled a whole bunch of appointments. Like if that, after that second appointment, if I'd had to go get on the phone to schedule more, more appointments right after that one, I may not have ever scheduled another one. But luckily I had like 9 or 10 already booked ahead of me. Right. You know, and most of them were encouraging even though they didn't buy anything, but I, I wanted to sell, but I wasn't trying to sell. There's a difference between wanting to and, and thinking that I was doing something for myself if they bought from me. Right. And you know the product. You know, if you got a product that, you know, I mean, people that bought Cutco from me in 1988, they still have it. There's nothing that they bought in 1988, no matter what they spent on it, that they're still using every single day. And they still have to this day. I mean, nothing. I mean, I used to use that in my appointment. I say, I say, think about Miss Jones, if there, you know, saves time, save money, use it every single day, never have to pay for itself, or never have to replace, and it pays for itself, right?
[00:58:57.170] - J Brad Britton
Works just as good today as it did the day that you got it, right? I said, can you think of anything else like that? And she says, well, my husband, well, no, he doesn't work the same way. It's, it's a, you know, and they would make their own joke. I heard that one a few times. But so I was doing them a service, right? I didn't really know it at the time. I mean, I had belief that it was the best knife, but the fact that it was probably the best place they could have put, you know, $30 or $50 or $200 or $500 at the time back then. I mean, the set that was $600 when I started is, uh, $2,000 today, you know, the same set, right? So, and it'll be $6,000, you know, in 30 more years, right? So that was something that I had to get past. And once I— my confidence started kicking in and I saw other people making sales and I looked at them like, that guy turned in 6 sales and I had 1 and he did, and he only did 7 appointments and I did 15.
[00:59:50.380] - J Brad Britton
I'm like, okay, something's, something's not right here. You know? And so, but my manager was, I was a constant PDI-er, you know, I called after all of my appointments or either I called him or he called me and we talked through everything and he had an answer to everything. I was lucky to be trained by a national champion who was the number 1 sales rep the year before. He was just brand new. In fact, I was in his second group of people that he ever trained, and I didn't know that at the time. But I mean, I could give the objection. I could say, here's what they said, and he would have this beautiful answer. And I could say, oh, they couldn't afford it because their cat needed braces or their dog had a nosebleed, right? And he would have the cat braces close, you know, and he just spit it out. I'm like, how would you even know to say what you just said? And he said, well, you know, you just say, you know, you just get— it just takes practice, you know. And so I got to this point where I would ask myself, if I do an appointment and I don't make a sale, and I would leave, and I would say, would my manager John have— would he have made that sale?
[01:00:40.430] - J Brad Britton
And I finally started getting to the point that, you know what, he probably would have. He probably would have figured out how to do it. And so the fact that it was possible drove me to try to figure it out, you know. And I got— and I made up all these closes, and I would practice them. I would pretend to get an objection. I'm driving in my car, pretend to get an objection. And I'm speaking it out, you know, and people are looking at me like, is that guy talking to himself? And hopefully they thought I was singing to the radio. But I mean, I was constantly role-playing to myself, you know, these scenarios. That was helpful.
[01:01:09.990] - Brandon Reece
Yeah. Well, you know, I think to me that underscores what a lot of us just don't give enough attention to. I mean, the owners listening to the podcast, sales managers, GMs, you hire a sales rep and I think a lot of times we just send 'em out into the wind.
[01:01:23.390] - J Brad Britton
Oh yeah.
[01:01:23.650] - Brandon Reece
Hey, go do your thing, bring in the business. Business. And we don't, we don't support them and encourage them and stay close enough to that rep while they're onboarding and while they're kind of getting their sea legs. And I think that's something that Cutco Vector just was so exemplary at. In fact, I think it was so foundational was really in those, that fast start, that first weekend, that first few weeks, it was so critical to stay in front of discouragement and disappointment, like to be right on it. To where it didn't have time to fester, you know, as they were building their confidence and conviction, you know? And I think very few businesses are great at that when they onboard sales reps. We just think, just go do your thing, go talk to people, it'll, you know, and you'll figure it out. It's like, well, no, it's a head game for sales reps.
[01:02:10.020] - J Brad Britton
I think a lot of times people, the managers, forget what it's like to be new, you know, forget what it's like to be the ones who have that memory and have embraced it. A lot of times will, you know, be the ones that are more effective in those, those early conversations. But yeah, it's, I mean, it's critical. And certainly there's a lot of principles that the Vector business and the Cutco business do that many, many businesses could embrace. When I wasn't, when I was taking my hiatus, I didn't like set up a shop and say, okay, now I'm a consultant, but I was almost always had some work. You know, someone would call based on reputation and say, you know, hey, we're starting, we need to do some recruiting. You know, or we need some refinement in our training programs. And they'd recognize that there's something that they needed to do, some really interesting ones, but they wanted to mimic Cutco. And I would say you can't, you can't out-Cutco Cutco because there's certain things that are inherent. You know, 75 years or not 75 years now, but at the time, 50 years of tradition, you know, 50 years of recognition, 50 years of seeing what the top rep is this year, then the year, then the year.
[01:03:10.150] - J Brad Britton
And just the confidence that that builds and the recognition programs. And when I was a region manager, my trophy budget, right, I think there was one year we spent $250,000 on trophies.
[01:03:21.150] - Chris Nordyke
Wow.
[01:03:21.310] - J Brad Britton
Trophies, right? And it was cool because I was spending so much money on a credit card. I got the American Express Black Card back when they were, nobody had those, you know? And I got to use that 'cause I spent $1 million on business expenses of running conferences and doing all those things. That was a pretty cool perk to have for a couple years, but—
[01:03:37.660] - Brandon Reece
I'll bet it was. I'll bet it was.
[01:03:40.370] - J Brad Britton
Back in the day.
[01:03:40.940] - Brandon Reece
Well, listen, J. Brad, this has been great. We're coming up against the clock. Yeah. But this has been really special. And first of all, I just want to thank you again, not only, man, for, you know, taking time with us today, but just the vulnerability that you brought to this book. I mean, I think, like I said, I highly encourage anybody to read this, whether you have a child with any kind of disability, you know, let alone autism or apraxia or some kind of neurodivergence. Like, again, for me as a dad, like, I just really related to this storyline. Like, in some ways, I mean, I don't want to overly simplify it, but like this love story between a father and his son, you know, and sort of discovering, like, this story of you seeing him for the first time and having this new understanding of him, and then how that developed over time. I just related to a lot of it. Yeah. And so I found it really great.
[01:04:28.190] - J Brad Britton
Yeah. Thanks for that. And I hope anybody listening will do it. I mean, I got lots of books that I still haven't read, you know. This is a book that it needs to be read, right? It needs to be read by a lot of people. I've written like 80% of at least a half dozen books, and I wrote the first chapter of this book and I sent it to two people that I respect. Both are not kind of public— Hal Elrod is one and John Israel is the other. I don't know if you know who John Israel is. Mr. Thank You, right? And I sent it to them. I said, what do you guys think about this? And both of them got back to me and says, this is— and this is just the first draft, you know, of the chapter one And I said, this book needs to be finished. This is a message that's important. This is a message people need to hear. John actually does have a daughter with a, I guess, a neurodiversity issue, but Hal doesn't. And, and I was like, their encouragement was so confident that this was the book that I needed to write, you know.
[01:05:15.330] - J Brad Britton
And I told them about other books and they're like, oh yeah, it sounds like a pretty good, you know, idea. But this was very, you know, pretty unique to a lot of people. And so that was the encouragement that it took to actually get it finished. And like I said earlier, you know, it's written— I tried to write it in such a way that doesn't really matter who somebody is, that there's going to be value beyond what people expect. Because it's not— I know what people expect, an autism story. Here's what happened when they got diagnosed, and here's this and there's that. And it's not— it's not even written in chronological order. It's very unique, and I wanted to make it that way. I hope a lot of people will read it because I haven't— of course, nobody who's read it and didn't like it and then called me up and said, hey, I don't like right? Nobody said that, but— and maybe I'll get some 1-star reviews on Amazon at some point, you know, somebody will have something to say. But I really tried to write it in a way that it was just going to really be universally applicable, you know.
[01:06:03.950] - J Brad Britton
And by the way, you guys both need to get— go to Amazon and get a review. If it gets to 100 reviews, then Amazon starts to bring it up more as a recommendation. Yeah, okay. And Brandon, since you did the audiobook, go to Audible and leave it on the— for the audiobook You can actually leave it for both, right? The audiobook and the regular one if you want. I mean, a lot of people say they want to do it, but getting around to actually doing it is— Yeah.
[01:06:26.110] - Brandon Reece
Well, I will definitely go on and do that today. I got to go back into my Amazon history and then write the review. Listen, for those that want to check out "Real Words with Sam," just Amazon it, right?
[01:06:37.650] - J Brad Britton
Yeah.
[01:06:37.840] - Brandon Reece
You could just put it in your search bar right now. It'll come up all the different options. Is there also a website too that they can check out?
[01:06:44.610] - J Brad Britton
Yeah, you know, I would even recommend people doing it that way because you can read the first 5 chapters for free on the website. I give it available so if someone wants to just not spend any money and see if it's going to be worth, you know, dropping $20 on it. But yeah, the website's realwordswithsam.com is all it is. And there's— I didn't put a whole lot of extra bonuses online, but there's some things online that you don't see in the, in the book. But you'll certainly get a feel for what the book is like if you just— and it's the first thing you see, basically. Buy the book, free preview, right? Click on the preview. You got to put in your name and email address, but you'll get that, and you'll probably get a little welcome email. Hey, thanks for, thanks for, uh, you know, looking at the book. And that's one way to get it.
[01:07:23.860] - Brandon Reece
Hey, thanks again, JBrad. I appreciate you joining the show, man.
[01:07:26.670] - J Brad Britton
Really great, really great to reconnect with you, Chris. And, uh, continue to— you should visit if you come down. We got some things we could do down in Southern California. Brandon, if you're ever down, you know, you guys know how to get in touch with me.
[01:07:36.640] - Chris Nordyke
Right on, man.
[01:07:37.710] - Brandon Reece
Thanks. Great.
[01:07:38.530] - J Brad Britton
All right. Take care.
[01:07:42.370] - Chris Nordyke
All right, everybody. Hey, thanks for joining us for another episode of Head, Heart Boots.
[01:07:46.890] - Brandon Reece
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